Updated: October 20, 2016
The year’s most romantic day is just around the corner. And since February 14 is a Sunday this year, you have all weekend to celebrate with your husband. So tell me, are you dreaming about the day or dreading it?
In this article, I’ll share advice from two relationship experts. Tips to help you celebrate your love life, improve communication, and avoid a Valentine’s Day letdown. Let’s get started!
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Turn Your Dread Into Dreams
A curious article landed in my inbox this week: “Don’t Let Valentine’s Day Ruin Your Love Life.” It offered some good food for thought.
“Many couples dread Valentine’s Day,” wrote Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, a husband-and-wife counseling team in Seattle, Washington. Not only do they share a name, but a passion for healthy relationships.
The world’s most romantic holiday can often lead to letdown, said the Parrotts. They cited two reasons for disappointment: (1) heightened expectations, and (2) the potential gap between expectations and reality.
They also suggested three topics to discuss with your spouse before the big day. Things that can turn your dread into dreams.
Avoid a Valentine’s Day Letdown
As any couple knows, Valentine’s Day isn’t always about dreamy sighs and steamy kisses. But it can be an opportunity to build a stronger connection with your spouse.
If you want to avoid a Valentine’s Day letdown this year, talk to your partner. The Parrotts suggest you have a conversation before the big day. The discussion should convey three specific things:
- Acknowledge that you love each other and want the day (or weekend) to be special for both of you.
- Confess that you’re not a mind reader, and ask your husband what he would enjoy the most.
- Agree not to buy the lie that Valentine’s Day must meet Hollywood’s standard of romance.
Valentine’s Day is a great time to celebrate your love life. It’s also a chance to improve your marriage communication.
So talk to your spouse. Regular love talks help you set realistic expectations and avoid romantic letdowns.
Improve Your Marriage Communication
Mitch and I will celebrate nine years of marriage this year. In our experience, communication is the most important factor in a marriage. It’s the starting point for everything else.
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Over To You
Now it’s YOUR turn to chime in. Do you dream about Valentine’s Day or dread it? How can you improve the communication in your marriage?
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